Domestic Violence & Excuses

I wrote an article about Domestic Violence (DV) back in March 2009 here:

What is the official definition of domestic violence?
The government defines domestic violence as "Any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality." This includes issues of concern to black and minority ethnic communities such as so called 'honour killings'.

Although I made it clear in the article that DV cuts both ways I have yet to discover the excuses women use to bully and abuse men. I sat for hours at my computer asking various search engines "why do women abuse men" and every page gave the opposite answer "why do men abuse women"
So after much searching I cannot find the answer to the excuses women use to "justify" why they abuse men. I did however find the excuses that men use ! All of the excuses are words of a coward trying to "justify" why they "slapped" women
Now I do know that all forms of DV be it psychological, economic, emotional or physical , come from the abuser's desire for power and control over their victim and I also know what men say to justify it.
Make of the following excuses what you will, but in my opinion they are words of a playground bully or pure and simply the words of a COWARD..................

"She made me do it"....... "She should have tried harder"......."She liked it" ........ "She just wants to play the victim"..........."Its her fault, she should have cleaned the mess up"....... "She knows my sexual needs, its her duty".......... "She cant be trusted with money"...... "She just wants money to tart herself up with make-up and clothes".......... "I keep her in line as any responsible husband would"........ "She knows I'm jealous of her youth"

*Try as I might I can't seem to reverse these pathetically cowardly excuses!